Chick logic. Whatryagonnado?

This article reminded me of an awesome story. One time Boy Aaron was rewriting his resume and started reading all sorts of books and blogs on how to do so. It was working a little but there was just so much junk information, a lot of it seemed like personal opinion and not all recruiters would see it the same way. Basically he would get some piece of advice from one source then a contradiction from another. THEN! He stumbled upon a tech recruiter’s blog about how to be a good recruiter…SPECIFIC things like a whole article about the importance of finding someone who has “Passion” and then actually breaking down what passion meant from his perspective…
This was great because Aaron was solving the problem from starting at the solution and working backwards…A.k.a. looking at what his audience wanted and writing for them, not for himself. And then he got the job offer he wanted.

SO my point is I like the part where you say writing a personal ad is not about writing about what you want to write about, and hoping it expresses you, writing a personal ad is about writing for the audience you want to attract…(and of course it gets more complicated when your talking about romantic relationships.) Your definitely right about being honest because shit will come out unless you come out clean with it. And social engineering, forming what you say in a way that gets the response you want, seems manipulative or like your lying so I could guess some people get a bit turned off by the idea… but I guess you deal with that stigma anyways with the field you work in! Well, for what its worth, I’m a big fan of honest social engineering!

I do agree with a point from Julia, the article you wrote is how to find the right guy, and the right guy isn’t a puppy. But that’s your perspective, some women love puppy boyfriends. SO my opinion is that the formula you have is totally right, ( step one: figure out WHO you want, step two: figure out what they want, step three: write from the perspective of what they want…step four: PROFIT ) BUT maybe I’m a pessimist and I really do think most people are not honest about what they really want and that’s where your whole puppy dog theory comes in…specifically how it relates to what women want. Being honest about what you want takes a real impartial scrutinizing breakdown of your self, constant honest analysis. I think most people just surf their own issues and hope for the best, maybe they find some one with complimentary maladaptive coping mechanisms and they stay together for a bit, but they never really get to the point where they know what they want and then find some one who has it.

Also, the amount of work it takes to be that honest with your self has to be less then the pain it causes for you to make a change…Like shit has to be serious before you take the energy to change it. It’s rough but a lot of peoples super bad coping mechanisms are accepted or even positively reinforced in our society.

SOOOO Summary: Dating is hard, man! Haha, but also Aaron and I met online and we worked out so there’s that I guess I should get back to homework…Thanks for the distraction. Found your blog from you FB posts. Good stuff Chris.

1.hm, only men have commented so far.
2.Now we know what CHRIS wants in a woman.
3.puppy-seeking women need to be true to who they are, because there are in fact puppy-men out there. You (Chris) just don’t happen to be one of them. And I guess you’re annoyed at how many totally hot chicks there are who actually do want puppy men – ie, you’re never gonna have a shot with them.
4.It’s virtually impossible for anyone to do their own marketing, because they’re not objective enough either about their product or about what their market REALLY responds to.
5.If I want an unemployable insanely creative entrepreneur type, what should I talk about in my (hypothetical) headline, conversion rates?

My wife and I offered to help them with decent copy too

Great Article.
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